分手戀人,最好變為什麼關係?(4/9節目話題)

知己 because when i unhappy i can have one more 知己 to listen to me
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性伴侶......男士的夢想.(妄想?)
一個非常平凡的人
本帖最後由 BadAss 於 5-9-2009 23:15 編輯

Why would you want to keep a relationship with your ex?

You should move on and put your ex in your past, after all if it was so great you never would have broken up. You should expand your inner circle and discover there is much more in life. Your ex should not be a part of it. Why live with the tension and drama that go with it? Over time you'll forget about your ex. It is absolutely not a good thing to drag a baggage into a new relationship.
I   think   So  ,Thank   you   very   much.
順其自然最好~~~~~~~~~~
性伴侶 >> 得閒重可以打番場友誼波......真係情欲分離既至高境界!
number18 發表於 5-9-2009 01:18
同意, 有d 女人, 真是十年如一日的"騷", 不食不食還須食
陌路人!!俾人笑我少氣都係咁話!!因為次次我都100%去盡左!!(空即是色,色即是空)
本帖最後由 MSZ-006 於 6-9-2009 00:34 編輯
16# MSZ-006
現在寫出來看似蕭灑,當中過程很反複,朋友說愛得深恨得切;你現在不恨他那証明你已不愛他了,好了,你放下了…心想:是這樣嗎?感激朋友的關心和安慰,但內心深處發現了些不同…
分手初期滿腦都是他的不該,整天尋找不該的故事.......
hyminalmay 發表於 5-9-2009 11:40
It is fact that the time after broken is not easy to come across, especially during the early period (of a first few days/weeks) afterwards the separation.  The feeling is like living without soul because of unability to concentrate on anything.  It also cannot sleep all night long because of seeing her in mind when closing eyes.

I think I still love her but in different way.  Love should involve the four elements of  CARE/CONCERN, RESPECT, REPONSIBILITY, KNOWLEDGE (in accordance with Erich Fromm's The Art of Loving, http://www.apocatastasis.net/OccultLibrary/Art-of-Loving-Erich-Fromm.html).  The so-called "but in different way" is in fact a kind of sublimation - to divert the energy of (a sexual or other biological impulse) from its immediate goal to one of a more acceptable social, moral, or aesthetic nature or use.

Sublimation seems to be the best way to convert negatively love experience to a positive aspect.  Involvement of love in courtship is in fact like spreading water out on ground.  It cannot be withdrawn psychologically, although most peope would be way out unconsiously via e.g. one of the Freud's Defense Mechanism (denial, identification, compensation, rationalization, displacement, and ....... ).  However, only sublimation is a better way to resolve such hardly resolved love issues in a rational and acceptable way positively and socially.

有時 激情捉係手裏面 會化為灰燼
反而藏係心底 可以歷久常新
貪求思幕只因痴 一切眼淚 思憶都係徒然


                                       
新教倫理與資本主義精神, 馬克斯·韋伯
http://zh.wikipedia.org/wiki/Max_Weber
愛的藝術, 佛洛姆 ﹝The Art of Loving, Erich Fromm﹞
http://www.hkreporter.com/talks/thread-752855-1-2.html
日子久了,一切淡忘了,各有各生活,冇乜關係。
本帖最後由 火哥 於 6-9-2009 10:12 編輯

我選擇左陌路人,亦係我真實0既做法,記得有一次送完女友返屋企,0係路上撞到前女友,當時佢同一個男性朋友正由一間餐廳行出0黎,我眼尾見到佢見到我,我偏偏扮見唔到佢。望電話、睇手錶、撥頭髮,用來遮掩自己0既唔自然,最後我地冇亙相打招呼,我實在好怕呢個情況,以前分手分得好樣衰,嘈晒交0個隻,令我更加唔想見到佢,雖然近來都會msn問候一下佢,但咁樣就夠喇。
做返朋友真係好難,同佢一齊時佢hurt過我好多次,佢出過軌3次,我都原諒佢,最後係因為大家淡過淡水,加上呢個人冇晒誠信,最後分左手,而家我要同做普通朋友真係難上加難。
雨陽,可能你會覺得我小器,但起碼令我自己好過一d,我自問真係做唔到行埋去講,"喂~咁橋0既?好耐冇見喇~"
你明唔明我講咩呀?